My mother (and my son's grandmother) was a big help to me for about 2 weeks after the loss of my son in March of 2009.  After 2 weeks, I am wondering if she felt that it was too much for her to have to be supportive of me.  I have always been the strong one in our family, but now I am weak and I needed my mom to help me through this.  She ended up snapping (she has drinking issues of her own) and telling me that she and my son have always embarrassed me (so not true, my mom only embarrassed me when she is drinking).  She said I was part of her problem and that she is going through a hard time too. I know that it is hard for a grandparent to lose a grandchild, but still they need to be there for their own child.  I am wondering what exactly other grandparents are doing to help their child that lost a child.  My mom has not talked to me for nearly 2 months now.  I am reaching out to my friends for support because I feel my mom has turned her back on me.  How can a mom do this?  I could never do this to my own children if they needed me so much.  How can I contact my mom to support her when she has hurt me in the biggest way, and I did nothing wrong, and she said hateful things to me. I am trying to heal myself and I can't be the strong one this time.  My mom has bigger issues that I can't help her with.  I just don't know what to do, I wish my mom could be the strong one for me for once.